Wednesday, April 27, 2011

Wifey Wednesday

"...whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable-if anything is excellent or praiseworthy-think about such things"
(Philippians 4:8).

My Hockey Hero

I enjoyed reading the following blog about "who is your romantic fantasy"?

A few of favourite lines in that post are:

"The only one you should have eyes for is your husband."

"tell your children how much you love and adore their father."

"You should be your husband's biggest fan, not the fan of someone else. "

It is so easy to fantasize about somebody else or even to simply say out loud how cute we think somebody is (other than our spouse). Our sexualized culture and media does not help in this area at all. For example, in magazines and romance novels (even Christian ones), the temptation is to compare your spouse to the hero in the story and focus on all the ways your spouse doesn’t measure up which leads to disillusionment and discontent in your marriage. This is very damaging to a marriage, which is why it is so important that we guard our hearts and minds and build hedges (boundaries) within our marriage.

Laura Brotherson advises to set mental boundaries. She writes, “set a mental filter to reject any sexual thoughts or inappropriate thoughts of anyone other than your spouse…do not even entertain thoughts that put you with anyone but your spouse.” Jon Piper says, “When it comes to your sexual purity, the ultimate battle is in your mind. Don’t give your mind junk food. Be sure you’re getting spiritual nutrition.”

I want to be my husband's biggest fan! I want to brag about him in front of others- especially in front of our children.

Last night, we went out on a much needed date night. We went to the mall, and then we went to get groceries. It was rather sad, but good that Paul said, "We should get groceries together more often"! It's sad that that is what our date nights have become, but it is good that we can have so much fun together, even when we are grocery shopping!!!


ET @ Titus2:3-5 said...

I think that's great! Date night is about time together more than it is about what you're doing. And isn't it lovely to have company for grocery shopping?!

For some reason, that one point didn't stand out to me until you reiterated it here - praise my husband in front of the kids. I need to do that more.

Heather said...

That's the truest test! Can you make grocery shopping a great time when you're with your spouse? If the answer is yes, it can be considered a good date idea :)